Burn, Baby, Burn: How sexy lingerie and adult novelty items can spark the flames of passion on your date night.

Leg Avenue Corset

Leg Avenue Corset

I may not be a Girl Scout, but I sure know how to build a fire. O.K., I’m not talking about a literal one here. I’m referring to lighting a fire between two people who love each other and want to share special time together. For couples, the holidays present an opportunity to give each other an extra special gift: a hot date night! You don’t have to wait until Valentine’s Day to set the stage for a romantic encounter filled with tenderness, passion and fun. While running my store in New York City for more than ten years, I had many experiences where I gave customers, both female and male, romantic advice. It comes with the territory being in the lingerie retailing business! As a result, I fancy myself an expert on how women can set the stage for a sexy night of love with their significant others and I love how customers have taken me into their confidence. Trust me when I tell you I’ve received many thanks over the years for giving them spot-on tips. I like to look at date night in progressive stages leading up to the main event. Following are the steps I would include in your date night playbook. Be forewarned, most of the recommended items are adult pleasure products so you may blush while reading this if you’re bashful about such matters. Don’t worry, I won’t tell if you won’t!

Step 1: Prepare for the big night.

The brain may be the most potent muscle for lovemaking, but sometimes our private lady parts can benefit from a little pre-flexing to enhance our experience, if you know what I mean. LELO, a leading maker of sensual aids, makes a terrific product to exercise and strengthen the genital muscles during pelvic exercises or walking around throughout the day. The LUNA Beads are available in two sizes, Classic, for women over 30 or those who have had children, and Mini, for women under thirty.

Lelo LUNA Beads

Lelo LUNA Beads

Step 2: Wear knockout lingerie.

Your intimates will certainly play a central role in your seduction scenario, but it has to be a very special piece. Red is the color of passion, so it’s a no-brainer to go with a hot number like the Leg Avenue Showgirl Corset. Featuring a sateen silhouette with steel boning, a brushed twill lining and detachable garter belts, it’s perfect for putting on a sexy show!

Leg Avenue Showgirl Corset

Leg Avenue Showgirl Corset

Step 3: Set the stage.

Before you go out (or stay in) for a romantic dinner, put a few things in place in the bedroom to fan the flames of love.  We know men are visual creatures, so give him something to ogle by showcasing your best assets in Mimi Rhinestones Circle Pasties from Bijoux Indiscreets, a provocative and sophisticated new brand of erotic products from Spain. The fun, starburst design is glamorous and gives him an irresistible target as well!

Mimi Rhinestone Circle Pasties

Mimi Rhinestone Circle Pasties

If you’re bound by love, why not take it a new level with erotic play using Plaisir Nacre Pearl Cuffs from Bijoux? Gentle restraint play between consenting adults enhances the sensory experience during lovemaking. These cuffs can be used to gently caress the landscape of your skin and your partner’s. Paired with a sexy eye mask, you’re ready to act out a chapter or two from Fifty Shades of Grey!

Bijoux pleasure pearl cuffs

Bijoux pleasure pearl cuffs

Step 4: Serve up a feast for the senses.

When you’re finished with dinner, it’s time for dessert. Foreplay becomes a delectable experience enhanced by flavored body powders and balms so tasty they’ll guarantee you’ll be devouring each other all night long!

Bijoux body powder, available in flavors such as dark chocolate and strawberry, entice and illuminate the areas where lips and skin meet with this scented glitter powder. Highlight your curves with the richness of honey and fragrance of strawberries, blended with just a bit of shimmer into a full symphony of scents that come together in a deliciously kissable body powder.

Bijoux Wild Strawberry body powder

Bijoux Wild Strawberry body powder

As a special treat for him, apply some Nipple Nibblers balm from Bijoux Indiscreets to “the girls.” Cool, tingly and creamy Nipple Nibblers are lusciously flavored balms that can be applied easily to any other part of the body that you feel like kissing as well for a tasty treat.

Nipple Nibblers Stick by Bijoux

Nipple Nibblers Stick by Bijoux

The tantalizing scent of jasmine, roses and dark woods from the Massage Candle by Bijoux will stimulate his sense of smell while you relax and caress his muscles with a sensuous massage using the body oil resulting from the candle burning as things get hot between the two of you. The Bijoux massage candle is elegantly packaged in a box adorned with a removable metal tag with a bow accent.

Bijoux scented massage candle

Bijoux scented massage candle

I hope my titillating tutorial helps you heat things up on your holiday date night. I’ll let you figure out Step 5 all on your own. Have fun!

XOXO,

Margo

For the Boys: Ladies, explore your 50 shades of sexy by wearing the lingerie looks your guys want to see you in.

Lace opera gloves by Leg Avenue

Lace opera gloves by Leg Avenue

For the final entry in my Men’s Week series of posts I want to address the lucky ladies out there who have a thoughtful guy who is sweet enough to buy you intimates for the holidays. Actually, this post applies to any occasion during the year when you get lingerie as a gift from a guy. What happens when the intimates he selects are what he would like to see you slip on rather than the style you would buy for yourself? You know where I’m going with this, don’t you? You take one look at it — what little there may be to see or even hold — and think to yourself “I would NEVER wear this thing.” Clearly, your guy has an agenda and I’m here to tell you to get on that gravy train… now! There are plenty of women out there still waiting for Thanksgiving, if you know what I mean. It’s so hard to find a great guy with a sense of romance. Remember “Sex and the City?” I rest my case. Ladies, I urge you to meet him half way, put that sexy number on and be the pin-up girl of his dreams. Empower yourself by freeing yourself and celebrate how lucky you are to have a significant other who makes the effort to keep things fresh and exciting between you. It’s a gift in more than one way. I know some women find “playing sexy” an intimidating prospect. Not everyone aspires to be a Victoria’s Secret model and that’s perfectly fine. You still owe it to yourself to put forth your best effort and try a new look while remaining true to yourself. Remember, in the privacy of your home, you and he are the only ones who matter. You don’t have to wait for him to get you something “different” to push the boundaries of your lingerie wardrobe, either. This goes for the single gals out there, too! That said, I find it helpful for a woman who’s conservative to consider dipping her toe in the sea of sexy by trying new lingerie looks in degrees of daring. Given the phenomenal success of 50 Shades of Grey, I suspect that my Three Degrees of Daring is an approach whose time has come!

The First Degree: Keep it Simple.

Believe it or not, simplicity works with men. Sometimes all you need is a key new piece in your lingerie wardrobe to add a spark to your boudoir look. Black and sheer always work, of course, and I would recommend the Screen Goddess Slip from Lola Haze, which lets you be the main attraction in a revealing mesh silhouette that falls beautifully on your curves.

Lola Haze Sheer Goddess Slip

Lola Haze Screen Goddess Slip

The Second Degree: The Little Black Set.

Speaking of black, the theory about every woman needing a little black dress in her wardrobe applies to intimates, too. Black lingerie is just sexy, period. It’s the first thing I recommend to women who may be resistant to donning a full-on corset and garters number. The Little Black Set, consisting of a basic black bra, a panty, thigh highs and a garter, works well without going too far if you’re conservative. It’s easy to put together. Every lingerie brand has a black bra and I like Addiction’s Nouvelle full-cup bra with mesh and soft microfiber paneling.

Nouvelle full-cup bra by Addiction

Nouvelle full-cup bra by Addiction

A panty with a special detail, meanwhile, brings the eye to your womanly figure and adds zing to your style. Try Leg Avenue’s sheer panty with satin rhumba ruffle back or Mimi Holliday’s Angelique Jet Bow Back Thong, which has a flattering silk satin bow in back that literally gives him something special to unwrap this holiday season!

Leg Avenue Satin Rhumba ruffle short

Leg Avenue Satin Rhumba ruffle short

Angelique Jet Bow Back Thong by Mimi Holliday

Angelique Jet Bow Back Thong by Mimi Holliday

For the legs, Philippe Matignon offers sexy Nobless 50 denier suspender belt thigh-high stockings with sheer toes. Pair them with garter belts from Mimi Holliday or Simone Perele for the perfect finishing touch.

Philippe Matignon thigh highs & garter

Philippe Matignon thigh highs & garter

The Third Degree: Dress it Up!

You’re ready to tap into your inner Bond Girl and strut your stuff in a dress-up look with the works: corset, garters, sheers, you name it. This isn’t about having a so-called perfect body, mind you. If you’re an extra curvy gal or a petite one with a modest bust and have the love of a good man, you are perfect in his eyes, so go for it!

This season I’m very big on the three-piece Blush set by Leg Avenue, the masters in sexy lingerie looks. It pays homage to pin-up girl style with lace and a power mesh underwire bra with retro stitching and oversized elastic straps, a girdle skirt with attached garters and matching G-string.

Leg Avenue 3-piece Blush set

Leg Avenue 3-piece Blush set

So the next time your guy tries to coax you into wearing lingerie that you wouldn’t choose for yourself, meet him half way. If all goes well, you won’t be wearing it for long!

XOXO,

Margo